These days there is a lot of confusion when it comes to what single men and women seek in a partner. It is time the genders got back to basics and recognised what they really want and need when it comes to finding a partner. Unless they look beneath the more superficial criteria that feature at the top of their shopping lists, many a single guy or gal of today may fail to recognise the fulfilment they seek.
These days there is a real chasm in communication between the sexes when it comes to the confusing expectations held about relationships. While increasing numbers of intelligent and ambitious women in their late 20′s/early 30′s focus on their successful careers, buy their own homes and enjoy their single lifestyle; the majority still assume that one day they will meet a man who fits their criteria and that they will then have a family. However, for many a man, there are can be serious dilemmas about how he could fit the bill as a partner for such independent women.
It is not surprising that the expectations both sexes have of each other have changed, now that women often have successful careers and can create a comfortable lifestyle. It is not unusual to hear a man say that he has difficulty knowing what he has to offer the woman of today…why she would need him. Over the years it has become more common to hear a man tell about being unlucky in love or discarded because he was not as successful as a woman he cared for; be this to do with finances, occupation, education or whatever.
Money, especially the lack thereof, is often an issue in a relationship for both genders. While financial security is, of course, important when it comes to creating a future, it is disconcerting that it plays such a major role when it comes to the life choices of some singles who are well educated and earn good incomes. One young woman recently said she’d already decided that she would not have children because if she did she would not be able to have the lifestyle she desired and provide the private school education she would want for her offspring.
While material security is important, a foundation of friendship and love is essential if a partnership is to be fulfilling and to last. Bottom line, surely what matters most is that two people are together because they are committed through caring for and respecting each other and their relationship. From our experience at Yvonne Allen and Associates, we know how important it is to look beyond the superficial when seeking that special someone.
